Meeting an online blogger

I had an awesome amazing experience yesterday.  I met up with my first fellow adoption blogger.  Honestly I was scared and nervous.  First of all I never have met someone from the Internet in real life.  I (and my husband) was a bit worried that I would end up on one of those missing posters.  Then I was scared that we would have nothing in common other than adoption.  I was worried about how I looked in person.  Am I better on paper than in person?  Would we annoy the crap out of each other?  All of these thoughts went through my head.   

Then I found this blogger at her store and we didn’t stop talking for 6 hours straight.  She is smart, funny, and simply amazing.  I could have stayed the whole night and talked with her.  We had so much in common.  I know this might come as a shock to some people that read my blog but neither of us were bitter or angry.  Even if we didn’t have adoption in common I could see us being friends. 

You know what was really nice is usually when I speak about adoption I have to have my walls up and explain every teeny tiny detail.  I have to make sure the person I’m talking to doesn’t get offended or hurt.  But because she has lived adoption for so long and we are on this path together my walls were down.  I could say things without worrying about her being defensive or hurt.  I could say things without her saying well my uncle’s cousin’s boyfriend’s partner adopted and that adoption is great. 

We didn’t talk about just adoption.  We talked about our families, friends, marriage, kids, husbands, the towns where we lived, our jobs, our pasts, presents, our futures.  We talked about our teenage kids and even found out one of my sons and her daughter are almost the exact same age.  To say it was great to meet would put it mildly. 

We talked about fellow bloggers we would love to meet, some that intimidate us(but still want to meet).  We talked about how smart some of these bloggers were.  We talked about politics about adoption.  How we feel towards our placed children’s parents.  It made me realize how much I wanted to meet my other fellow bloggers.  If anyone is ever in the Bay Area or if you live out here please contact me.