February 7, 2012

What is the difference?

Filed under: Uncategorized — by jeannette4175 @ 6:15 pm

I jut read http://benandcamille.blogspot.com/2011/12/forever-changed.html and http://benandcamille.blogspot.com/2012/01/here-with-us.html

It is a very touching story.  But I know if this woman had not been married when her child was conceived she would be asked to go to LDSFS.  She ended up in the same circumstance, single mother and alone.  The difference is premarital sex.  The father is still not in the picture, she will raise her children alone.  She will struggle, she will have to rely on family.  What is the difference between her and I?  When it comes down to the facts of how are children will be raised what is the difference?  Why is she more worthy than I to raise a child as a single mother?  Why is she more worthy than Allysa, or Melynda, or the millions of other mothers?  Why does my church teach this?  Why was she not asked to just look at a couple to raise her children?  She was after all single and alone?  I guess it is the conception that actually matters not the single parenthood.



  1. That is really sad that you would compare Tiffany’s situation to any adoption situation.

    It would be nice if all women with unplanned pregnancies had the support that was mentioned that Tiffany has. “With lots of helpers, 2 amazing mothers, and Jared and angels on the other side, these 3 girls are well taken care of.”

    It is really sad that your bitterness you have has tuned to jealousy towards a young mother that lost her husband.

    Melynda’s new post to Jessa made me teary eyed. It was so sweet. Kindness and love go a lot farther than anger and bitterness. I thought her first blog comments were harsh. But your comments seem so compassionless for Tiffany.

    Comment by Pam — February 9, 2012 @ 8:09 am |Reply

    • Pam, Jeanette is not bitter or angry, at all, just a bit less sweet than Melynda.

      I mean, how much compassion did people like Tiffany have with Jeanette and Allysa?

      No, Jeanette is not bitter or angry. I am,however, so I can see the difference.

      Comment by Teddy — February 10, 2012 @ 1:40 am |Reply

  2. I do think it is a beautiful story. But you have to see the similarities too between both situations. I didn’t think it was bitter to point out how similar the situation is. Is it jealousy to point out the similarities? Reprimending what church leaders do to single mothers created by premarital sex compared to single mothers because ther husband died is being respectful to both woman in a VERY simliar situation. I am not disrespecting Tiffany but being disrespectful to a culture within a church. I think it is a blessing that Tiffany was not seperated from her chidren. It is a blessing that she does not have to suffer that loss. It is a blessing to her, her children, and both families. All I am pointing out is the similarities in our situation but the differences in the way we were treated. I’m sorry that you thought it was me being bitter. I did not mean to come off that way. I was merely pointing out the similarities in our situation but the dfferent way we were treated by the same church and culture.

    Comment by jeannette4175 — February 9, 2012 @ 4:24 pm |Reply

    • The biggest similarity that I see is that people in both situations need the support of others.

      Comment by Pam — February 10, 2012 @ 4:03 am |Reply

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